I’ll be attending my second funeral of September right now–third in the event you depend Queen Elizabeth’s.
Whereas Queen Elizabeth’s funeral was actually a lot grander (and longer!) than any funeral I’ve attended in individual, the costume code (minus the hats) is what I used to be used to within the US.
Males put on darkish fits. Ladies put on darkish attire or good darkish pants.
I’ve attended 5 – 6 Swiss funerals in my 13 years right here and one for a fellow ex-pat. Right now’s funeral is for my good buddy Richard Brown who was a part of my Improv Staff. Richard is the larger-than-life man within the center. He was hilarious, sort, humorous, sensible, and gone too quickly.
Whereas I’m not fairly certain what to anticipate at Richard’s funeral, as Richard was very distinguished within the Basel Theater Neighborhood and this might be a celebration of life, with numerous performances by folks he acted with, directed, and produced through the years, I believe it gained’t be fairly like QEII’s funeral. In any case, Richard produced Hire in Switzerland, and I do know there might be performances from that manufacturing.
And but, I believe it gained’t be like Swiss funerals both.
Funerals are one thing with a wealthy cultural heritage in each tradition. There isn’t a “proper” or “flawed” approach to do it. There are culturally right methods, however how issues go is culturally pushed.
Listed here are the (common) variations I’ve seen between a Swiss non secular funeral and an American non secular funeral. (Admittedly, I’ve by no means been to a non-religious Swiss funeral.) And take into accout, I stay within the German talking area, so the opposite areas could also be far totally different. Nonetheless, I believe the variations are attention-grabbing.
American: Deceased is “current” of their casket, which sits on the entrance of the church. Typically there’s a viewing or wake earlier than the place you may see the deceased.
Swiss: No casket on the funeral. Even when the individual shouldn’t be but buried or cremated, they don’t carry the physique to the church.
American: Majority buried (though, funeral administrators suppose it will change).
Swiss: Majority cremated. (Even in the event you’re buried, typically you hire the plot for 20 years, at which level, you’ll be dug up and cremated.)
American costume code: Males in darkish fits, ladies in darkish attire or pants. Enterprise formal apparel.
Swiss costume code: Come as you might be. Numerous denims. Some fits and a few attire, however clearly it isn’t a requirement.
American: Good eulogy learn by a member of the family
Swiss: Good euology learn by a member of the family
America: Non secular message
Swiss: Relgious message
American: Individuals observe from the church to the cemetery for burial
Swiss: Since there is no such thing as a physique on the funeral, if there’s to be a burial, it’s scheduled later within the day.
So whereas there are a lot of many issues which are the identical, these small cultural variations exist. And they’re okay. And if you wish to maintain your funeral in a distinct method (a buddy simply instructed me that at her mom’s funeral they handed out feather boas and tiaras, and I simply knowledgeable the offspring I would like everybody to put on loopy glasses to my funeral), go forward.
I’m certain there are a lot of folks with PhDs in funeral cultures. Regardless, I sit up for celebrating my buddy Richard’s life right now.